On becoming the men we have been waiting for
Power and domination are not masculine values. Nor are love and co-operation feminine ones. Both maleness and femaleness are fully engaged in all of these, yet men and women tend to express them differently. Men, that is real men, know how to love, and they deeply understand the necessity and virtue of co-operation. How can men step into gendered maturity in a balanced way and why it is important to do so for the sake of the world and one’s own mental health?
‘The world is changing’, said my mother, ‘and a good thing too’, she added with some feeling. She had been regaling me with a conversation that she had experienced with a group of her elderly friends. It had left her frustrated and irritated. It seems they had been treading familiar ground on the theme of ‘things were different (better) in our day’ and my mother’s efforts to derail the predictable drift of their tense and fearful conversation had failed.